A Wedding

Today-- was a pretty neat day for us. Jess and I did a bible study for college a few years ago and one of the guys from that group got married today. I was a groom's man and Jadyn and Bryn were flower girls. Jeremy (the groom) is from Oklahoma so we tried to be family to him while he was down here. In turn he became family to us-- the Yikes call him Uncle Jeremy. Hearing the wedding vows today reminded me of how serious they are: "In sickness and in health, 'til death do us part." Jess and I have both had to give up our own plans so instead of my plan or her plan we have our plan. By necessity Jess has become more dependent on me to make the right decisions and do the right thing. It frustrated me when I took a lot of time planning something completely out only to have her disagree. Now I realize that unless I let her tinker with my plans they cannot be our plans. For example for the first time yesterday I forgot to put Jessa's foot rests for her wheelchair in the trunk before we went to the rehearsal. When I couldn't find a wheelchair that we could use Jess wanted to stay in the car, but I wanted to bring her inside without the footrests. She ended up staying and Jeremy's dad went out to talk to her while we rehearsed. After that she came to dinner with us even though she would have rather stayed in the car again or gone home. Not too long ago we both would have ended up mad and made two separate plans, but out time together is too short not to be making plans together. We will be doing life together through sickness 'til death parts us. Let me close with a Yikes story. When we were eating rehearsal dinner at Spring Creek, Bryn asked what animal ham comes from. She was eating ham. I don't think our kids will ever be vegetarians because when Jess nervously told her that ham comes from pigs, she smiled big, said "Ooh-hoo-hoo" and took a big bite.