Saturday, October 25, 2008

Visit from Dr. Capper

Dr. Capper visited last night for about an hour. He gave me several tips for caring for Jess now, but he also was interested in who she was. I think every person should have a job that they enjoy doing and seems a perfect fit for them and I could tell that doing hospice is for him what teaching junior high is for me.

This morning she said a couple of things that didn't make sense but she hasn't said anything since then, although her eyes have fluttered open a couple of times. She has done very little eating or drinking today. I think realistically Jess will be coming home to heaven soon, but God is also not limited to the ordinary and I still pray for her healing. However, it has been enough for her to be with us today. I am grateful for hospice care around the clock now. I am grateful that all of our needs have been met and that so many people love my wife and us.

After Jess and I had been dating a few weeks, I noticed that she had said I need to get home now to my daughter. I thought this kind of like saying I can't go out with you tonight because I need to wash my hair, so one night on the phone after she told me she needed to let me go because she needed to get back to her daughter, I told her that the joke was getting old and she needed a more creative excuse. Dead silence followed. Then very clearly and slowly she explained that she really did have a daughter and with tears in her voice she told me that she would understand if I didn't see her again. I was very glad God had told me I was going to marry her because when you marry someone you marry all of them and whatever comes with them. I knew even if her daughter was a total stinker and even if I didn't feel ready to be a dad that I wasn't going to stop dating her and I told her that. Of course her daughter is now our wonderful, precious daughter whom I adopted last year. Tomorrow I will tell you about the first time I met Katelyn.

12 comments:

LynnAnn said...

Sweet Kaylor family - I woke up in the middle of the night last night and couldn't get back to sleep so I prayed and prayed for the sweet sleep of Proverbs 3:21-24 to wash over Jessica. Jake, I just love the way you are telling your's and Jessica's story.

Wendy M said...

Jake, I also woke in the middle of the night and couldn't go back to sleep so I prayed for Jess and all of you. Thank you for sharing your story with us - the whole journey!
Wendy Mizell

Tessa said...

I remember the first time I met Jessica and Katelyn. They came into my preschool Sunday school class with a throng of smiling happy family members, including but not limited, to my precious Nutt! They changed my life, too!!! I would have dated her based on the fact that she had Katelyn. What a bonus!

basstwo said...

I pray for you all every morning and I'm so thankful that we worship the God of all comfort and peace.
Love,
Amy, Erik, Luke and Paul

Cindy Mitchell said...

Jake, I have been thinking about your whole family and praying for comfort and peace. Your stories have been so inspirational to me. You truly have so much love for Jess and it shows through your stories of a blossoming relationship. Jess is such a precious woman and is so blessed to have you and the girls in her life. I remember when Katelyn was in sixth grade with her beautiful smile and sweet personality. Jess wanted to be our grade level representative despite her aches and pains. She was the best leader we ever had in sixth grade. She always did everything with a great big smile. She always thought of others first. Jess is here to show us all the true meaning of God's enduring love for each of us. Your family is a part of my family and I pray for peace through Jess's journey

Margaret said...

Jake,

I am praying for you and so inspired by your faith and witness. I was so blessed meeting you when you were in San Diego. Jessa has such a sweet spirit and is such a witness to the love and grace of Christ. The Lord holds each of you in his everlasting arms and will continue to hold you all together. In Christ, Margaret (Grandpa Rick's pastor)

Anonymous said...

Jake,
Hospice was such a blessing to me when I was taking care of my mom. They are such special people. I'm glad you too have found comfort in them. Many times I would go into her room in the middle of the night to find a nurse reading aloud from the Bible to her. We love all of you dearly and pray with everyone for God to hold you all close and when he is ready to bring Jess home to wait for us.
Stegall's

Anonymous said...

The hospice nurse told us this morning that Jessa hears everything we say. So, with family members standing by her and friends on each side, we say to her, "Well done Jessa. You have made a mark on eternity, you leave a legacy in your children and have single handedly brought us closer to Jesus. Beyond measure is how much our family loves you."

Aunt Sandy

Rhonda said...

Jake--my thoughts and prayers are with you guys. Amen for great doctors. I'm so glad that God has provided a trusting care staff for Jessica.

Lynne said...

Jake--- please give Jess a special hug and kiss from me. I send me love and know that your are all being held very tenderly in the palm of God's hands. Love, Lynne

Anonymous said...

Jake, I am a neighbor down the street from y'all who found your blog on Sandy's facebook. I just wanted to tell you that I have been praying continuously for you since reading your story. May God give your sweet family peace during this time. Blessings to you, Karen Thornton

Anonymous said...

Jake, I remember first meeting Jessica and wishing that I had met her sooner. What a ray of Sunshine. When I found out that she was in my Bible Study Fellowship group, I was excited to get to know her better. She was just beginning to have the hip pain at that point, but would slowly walk into BSF, her smile brighter than any other in the room. Now, after reading your posts for a while now, I see that you both share that "ray of Sunshiine" gift. Priceless! Continuing to pray, ~Bev Damon